Expectation from Chattels!

 "Don't compare guys with woman everytime, its useless. You don't have simplest sense of being. Such nonsense things you talk." he said thrashing my thoughts. 

Well the thrashing doesn't really explain my so called comparative analysis of gender in Indian society, so let me explain. It has been 5 years since my cousin sister's wedding. she is happy and loves her husband who is fortunately from our town itself. This gives her 'freedom' to visit her maternal/paternal home as well, at least whenever she is "allowed". My brother-in-law is a fun person, I enjoy his company as much tardy I think he is, he has never done anything bad to me, so I am naturally OK with his presence. 

Like every year my sister came to our town to celebrate Christmas. we all are very excited for Christmas and its a big shot shenanigans that we plan. When she arrived on 25th of November, she was expected to go straight to her in-laws. Why? Her mother in law might need help as its a big celebration. On 1st December, her parents got back from London after three months and she was excited to see them and therefore went to visit them at 1 o clock at night. And she was expected to go back to her inlaws house because my brother in law was leaving day after for his work trip. On 2nd of December, she visited her parents at night again after finishing chores at her in laws, her office job and her personal shenanigans with her husband who is leaving tomorrow for his work trip. She went and helped her parents set up and clean the vacant house and then was expected to go back to her in laws house because her mother in law needed help with preparing food for guests. Ironically my sister doesn't know 'C' about cooking. After 3rd December when she finally came to her parents house, her father told her to stay at her inlaws house because they are leaving for an international trip soon next month and she wont be able to meet them later. And finally, Christmas came and it was so much fun, my sister fed us a fantastic meal. How? well she took us out. Anywho, did you see my problem? The story was not supposed to be about my sister, it became about my sister because she was the one with maximum role in everybody's life. But her priorities are subsumed by everybody else's opinion and desires. It is to be clarified that I am not of the belief that equality would exist in every aspect of working. What I desire is to get equality in choosing, in deciding my running tasks, in planning out how I would like to work or follow my actions. Women are considered to be expected to be a lawyer yet cook for in laws. they are expected to leave their parents and houses and expected to become their in laws "daughter". But are such expectations not infringing the equality of decision making? because lets face it, indian expectations are in reality customary laws that if infringed are frowned upon by her own parents. Women are chattels of not just husbands but her parents and her in laws. 

Coming back to the comparative analysis, I believe my exact words were, why can't my brother in law live at her parents house for a day? And in reply I was declared to be without brains with Indian parental heat!